How to Relate to Your Worst Mistakes: The Life-Shaping Difference Between Regret and Remorse

You know it, that awful moment your coherent self-image shatters and a part of you, shadowy and untended, splits off to cause harm and havoc as the rest of you watches helplessly, wincing. You know the next moment, too — the desperate wish for an undo button you know cannot be had, no matter your protestations and prostrations. It is a seductive dream, to have an unregetting life, but it is also a